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All About First Impressions Human beings are built to size each other up quickly. Our first impressions of each other are influenced by a number of factors, such as facial shape, vocal inflection, attractiveness, and general emotional state. We tend to get attached to our initial impressions of people and find it very difficult to change our opinion of them, even when presented with lots of evidence to the contrary. As a result, it’s important to be aware of how we come across to others during a first meeting. Then we can employ impression management skills—modulating any irritating traits and accentuating our strengths—to ensure that people have a more favorable opinion of us. Everything from clothing style and posture to conversational topics can be adjusted to form a better first impression. First Impression First Impressions Why We're So Annoyed by People Who Come on Too Strong Is Love at First Sight Real? How to Make a Good First Impression It takes a mere seven s...

1. Chemistry Don't feel bad the next time you turn someone down because "the chemistry" just isn't there. McMahan says initially women are drawn to men based on attraction . "We think to ourselves, can we carry on a conversation with this person? Do I feel energized when I talk to this person? These are qualities that help to establish a foundation, to form a deeper connection, and a relationship with this person," McMahan says. 2. VulnAwareness It's difficult to build a relationship with someone who's closed off. "A man who is vulnerable has a counter-cultural willingness to step away from the power position which men are raised to feel comfortable being in," Hunt says. "For the partnership to happen, a man has to be willing to be vulnerable and he has to open his heart in order for that to happen." And heads up, ladies: this goes for you too. 3. Stability This is a big one, because it has three parts. "Sta...

“It’s not a dead relationship,” Sam insisted, staring across the family room at his wife, Ashley. The words came slowly to Ashley’s turned-down lips. “Sam, it’s the video games. It’s not reading to Brenda. It’s not being here for me. Your head is so far removed from us at times, well … I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Deep furrows crossed Sam’s brow. “What do you mean?” Ashley let out a sigh. “I don’t know how to explain it.” Like Ashley, almost everyone has problems explaining their sense of emotional anxiety. And when there is no resolution to a couple’s communication problems, they fall out of love. Often people blame their lovers for it all and say something like, “You’re from another planet. How could you get it?” But, truthfully, that misses the point. The issue isn’t that men and women cannot communicate. They run the Fortune 500 companies together, and that requires a vast network of coordinated communication. The real issue is a lack of understanding of ho...

Being aware that the relationship is toxic is vital in protecting yourself from breakage. To stay in a toxic relationship is to keep your hand hovering over the self-destruct button. Not all toxic relationships are easy to leave, but being aware of the signs will make it easier to claim back your power and draw a bold heavy line around what’s allowed into your life and what gets closed out. Toxic behaviour exists on a spectrum. All people and all relationships do some of these things some of the time – but that doesn’t make them toxic. A toxic relationship is defined by the consistency, the intensity and the damage. Here are some of the signs. 1. It feels bad. All the time. You fall asleep hollow and you wake up just as bad. You look at other couples doing their happy couple thing and you feel the sting. Why couldn’t that sort of love happen for you? It can, but first you have to clear the path for it to find you. Leaving a relationship is never easy, but staying for t...

What are the signs that I’m in a toxic relationship Being aware that the relationship is toxic is vital in protecting yourself from breakage. To stay in a toxic relationship is to keep your hand hovering over the self-destruct button. Not all toxic relationships are easy to leave, but being aware of the signs will make it easier to claim back your power and draw a bold heavy line around what’s allowed into your life and what gets closed out. Toxic behaviour exists on a spectrum. All people and all relationships do some of these things some of the time – but that doesn’t make them toxic. A toxic relationship is defined by the consistency, the intensity and the damage. Here are some of the signs. 1. It feels bad. All the time. You fall asleep hollow and you wake up just as bad. You look at other couples doing their happy couple thing and you feel the sting. Why couldn’t that sort of love happen for you? It can, but first you have to clear the path for it to find you. Leaving a ...

1. Make the decision. The hardest thing about letting go is making the decision and feeling okay about it. The ‘what-if’s’ will kill you and talk you into tightening your grip every time. That doesn’t mean they’re right. Set a time limit (‘If I’m still unhappy in six weeks …’) or a condition limit (‘If this happens one more time …’). There are some questions to ask yourself to sure up your resolve: • Do I feel bad more than I feel good? If yes, it’s time to let go. • What has to change for me to feel happy and secure? Have I ever seen this before? • Is this person, job, relationship is capable of giving me what I need? • What do I get from staying? Is it something real? Or something long gone. When was the last time I got this? 2. Change ‘Can’t’ to ‘Won’t’. There’s a difference between giving up and knowing when to let go. Giving up is ‘I can’t’. Letting go is, ‘I won’t.’ The difference is subtle in sound but enormous in impact. Giving up comes from a place of defeat. ‘I...

1. Know the clues. Often even before you’ve spoken the word you have a clue that you’d rather be saying ‘no’ ,but ‘yes’ jumps out instead. Know the signs – a tinge of anxiety, that sinking feeling, that faint voice inside you that knows everything that’s good for you except how to make you listen to it. 2. Try ‘Can I get back to you?’ or ‘I need to check – I’ll let you know.’ This slows the interaction down and gives you time to consider your response. The thought of saying no can cause anxiety in itself, so the temptation is to say ‘yes’ to get rid of the discomfort. If you don’t have to give a response straight away then don’t. Give yourself time to actually believe that you’ll be okay to say ‘no’. Because you will be. Make sure you come back quickly with your answer – the issue won’t go away. If someone has asked for your help they aren’t suddenly going to forget about it. A quick, gentle, generous ‘no’ is always so much better for the relationship than no response at all. ...

Getting What You Want and Need As a Wife Without Demanding It If you are concerned with never getting your way if you become submissive to your husband, consider that your husband will want to make you happy when you are an easy-going, gracious wife. Be kind and polite to your husband, and he will respond in kind. Your charms will do more for you as a wife than any complaining or fighting will. It might sound odd at first, but gentleness and femininity are elixirs for men. They cannot experience those womanly qualities anywhere else but in a relationship. The competitiveness of the working world and even the dynamic between his friends is usually macho and aggressive, and a man's relationship is the one place he can really get solace from all of that. You husband will be grateful to you for showing your softer, submissive side. Have You Really Enjoyed Independence and Gender Neutrality That Much? I was fed the same lies as millions of other women growing up in...

More than a third of the participants believe that the best places to go on a first date is a café or a regular hangout (34%). While a dinner date at a restaurant (21%) is the second best option, going out for lunch or watching a game or a movie seems to be a common third option, followed by a date at the park (09%), and lastly, an exotic option (04%). From what we see, the best place for a first date seems to be unanimous, a chat over coffee. Safe and easy going! [Read:  5 perfect questions to ask on a date ] Lovepanky Says A first date over coffee is a great option for any first date, especially if you want to warm up to the person with you, without going overboard. Cafés are perfect, because you can avoid the pressures of impressing or worrying about what to do if the date goes wrong, or worse, your date mate is just way too boring. Coffee houses can make for great dates between people who know each other, or work at the same place. Taking your date out to dinner is...

A perfect relationship is never one sided. When you make the effort to please your girlfriend and make her happy, she’ll involuntarily put in her effort at making you happier in love if she truly loves you back. So the next time you’re with your special girl, instead of holding back, give more. In mutual love, every loving act gives back more happiness to both lovers. For starters, use these 20 tips on how to make your girlfriend happy to pamper her and please her. And I’ll tell you this, you’ll definitely be the winner in the game of love. #1 Surprise her with memorable gifts.  Make sure you never forget your girlfriend’s special occasions, however trivial they may seem to you. And every now and then, show just how much you love her by giving her a memorable gift of love, be it a bling thing or a priceless gift like a heartfelt letter of love.  #2 Make her friends envy her.  All of us want our relationships to be perfect, but very few of us actually work...

Going out with a friend is something that needs a lot of thought. And if your friendship does mean a lot to you, think a while before making a move on a friend. Never forget that a relationship with a friend would never be the same if you ever split up someday. In most cases, friendships always have a way of twisting itself towards love or  emotional affairs , so if you’re falling in love with a friend and want to make a move, do so with your own neck on the line. Figure your feelings Ask yourself one last time, are the feelings you have for your friend truly love, is it purely lust, or is it because of an emotional upheaval in your life? Sometimes, you could misinterpret your feelings when you feel more attached to them all of a sudden, or feel jealous when they start going out with someone else. Be true to yourself about the origin of your feelings. You really wouldn’t want to propose only to find out in a couple of weeks that you really weren’t in love, and i...

No matter what your partner does for a living, there is no denying that it is not exactly a walk in the park when they make less money than you. Here are five golden rules on what to do, and how to delicately approach the situation. #1 Always treat your partner as an equal.  First things first. Never, under any circumstances, make your partner feel bad about making much less than you. This is especially true if your sweetheart is a hard worker and is truly passionate about what they are doing. They may slave away at a non-profit organization and rake in peanuts, but if they come home to you every day with a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment, who are you to say anything about what they make? You of all people should know that it takes more than just a paycheck to make getting up and going to work every morning possible. Just be sure that, should money issues ever crop up, never belittle them or make them feel that they’re not on par with you. With that being said, if...

At first, the guy and the girl are scared to kiss, and then they’re scared to go to second base, and then to the third. Once they get past that, life gets a bit manageable and both of you start to open up with each other. The body exploration is followed with drunken hangovers and awkward moments like untimely burps and dirty underwear. And then comes the first snore which is quite funny. And yeah, we have the first fart. This is a difficult barrier to break, farting in front of a lover, and don’t we all know this. Once we’re comfortable with the fart, there’s really no stopping it! It’s all funny and nice. But do you realize the one thing that matters here? Every single incident that happened here didn’t happen just like that. Every single step took a little bit of trust that eventually accumulated into the comfort of the first noisy fart. Once you know how to build trust in a relationship, the relationship enters the next little stage and gets that much h...

     A mature man who takes his commitment to a particular woman seriously will usually not cheat. I say “usually,” because there are three main factors that will greatly influence whether your man cheats or not: 1. His ethics (or lack of them). 2. His mastery over himself (or lack of it). (Self-control, self-discipline, maturity. It has many names.) 3. Opportunity. Notice that none of the things listed were “how much he loves you.” Many women erroneously believe that a man will not cheat on her if he simply loves her enough. This is not true. Maybe, in her mind, she would never cheat on her boyfriend because she loves him, but the reverse is not true much of the time. Often, men don’t cheat because they have fallen out of love with you, they cheat because they simply have the opportunity and have no ethical or moral problem with it. It’s the same reason anybody would do anything else. Let’s say that you were a 14-year-old at a convenience store and yo...

However, it happens and it’s something you and your significant other need to figure out if you want to resolve. DeVon Franklin, author of  THE TRUTH ABOUT MEN , shares his insight on how to fix a relationship after cheating is involved.  Many of the men I counsel and speak with all want to know the same thing: Is healing possible? We’ve all heard friends and family members proclaim that after they were cheated on, they could never trust the other person again. Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? But is that really true? Can there be repair, rehabilitation, and restoration of a marriage after infidelity? Can men who’ve been unrepentant players really change their ways and start treating women not as sex toys but as people? The answer is, it depends. It depends on the circumstances and what kind of damage has been done. It depends on whether the infidelity was a one-time mistake or a pattern going back years. It depends on how committed the man and woman are to ...