Cheating is something that no one wants to have to deal with while in a committed relationship.







Michaela Haas, Bouncing Forward, Advice for helping trauma victimsHowever, it happens and it’s something you and your significant other need to figure out if you want to resolve. DeVon Franklin, author of THE TRUTH ABOUT MEN, shares his insight on how to fix a relationship after cheating is involved. 
Many of the men I counsel and speak with all want to know the same thing: Is healing possible? We’ve all heard friends and family members proclaim that after they were cheated on, they could never trust the other person again. Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? But is that really true? Can there be repair, rehabilitation, and restoration of a marriage after infidelity? Can men who’ve been unrepentant players really change their ways and start treating women not as sex toys but as people?
The answer is, it depends. It depends on the circumstances and what kind of damage has been done. It depends on whether the infidelity was a one-time mistake or a pattern going back years. It depends on how committed the man and woman are to making things work and getting past the crisis, as Jason Weis, a family law attorney at Curran Moher Weis, says.

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