Things To Know Before You Get Engaged




Note: This is the first of a two-part series.

Dear Brown: I’m getting ready to pop the question, and wondered whether you have any guidelines about knowing whether someone would be a good choice for me. We are different in so many ways, but we enjoy many of the same things, we get along well, I’m attracted to her and I think we love each other. Is that enough? You hear of so many marriages falling apart, and I don’t want to rush into this blindly. Is there anything else you think I should consider?

Ready in Hawaii

Dear Hawaii: Good question. There are lots of things that I can recommend you examine before you consider marriage, because you absolutely want to know how compatible you will be with each other before you find out the hard way. So here are some suggestions:
These ideas come from Michael Batshaw in the book 51 Things You Should Know Before Getting Engaged (Trade Paper Press). I will continue with these suggestions in next week’s column.

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